Oct 16-26 written October 19+
Dear Diary, Friends, and Families,
OK, so we had a week carefully planned, starting with a winery tour at
Fresno State and continuing through a trip to see grandkids and friends
in the (SF) Bay Area, a 50th High School Reunion, and a visit from Dale
and Peter, dear friends from our German life. So, how is all that
planning going?
The first event, the private tour of the Fresno State winery, got put
off in favor of a trip to the Kaiser Hospital Emergency Room. As
most friends and relatives may know, Marianne has a heart with a mind
of its own. Over the last ten years or so, she has visited
cardiologists and hospitals to get her heartbeat to settle down to a
regular pattern whenever it starts to march to its own drummer. Well,
on Thursday morning, it started again, this time not double-time fast
like usual, but rather at a
somewhat-fast-but-quite-irregular beat. A cardiologist call
resulted in a recommendation to visit the ER, so that's what we did.
The hospital team did EKGs and X-rays and concluded, again, that
Marianne had "atrial fibrillation" a condition which needed treatment
with drugs or a pacemaker or an operation or something.
Unfortunately, these are all serious options needing careful consideration, so
we checked her out of the hospital, still with the misbehaving heart,
planning for more doctor consultations next week. We got on with
the rest of our plans.
Early Friday, we drove over to Ava and Sam's house (we no longer call
it Gabby and Mamal's), for a weekend visit. The kids are getting
bigger and older all the time and we see changes, even in the few weeks
since our last visit. We enjoyed some time with Sam, while Ava
was at school, and then we all met up with mommy (aka Gabrielle,
Gabby)for patio lunch at the country club. I should have taken a
picture, because it is a very lovely location.
Organized activities started on Saturday. First we went to Ava's
weekly soccer game, and I tried some "action sports" photography.
Ava's team, the Mighty Green Grasshoppers
Crowds were waiting while the team did warm-up exercises
Ava started on defense and must have been perfect, because no one
scored. (Actually, I wondered if ANYONE would EVER score in this
game - or in the whole season. Not so far.)
Everyone seemed to have fun though, and the after-game handshake may have been the highlight.
Meanwhile, three-year-old Sam practiced, waiting for his turn in the future years.
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Gabby was hosting a baby shower so we had time only for some pictures
of the elegant patio setting and then Marianne and I left to visit friends Malinda and Scott, while
Mamal took the kids off to their friends for the afternoon.
We refer to Malinda and Scott as "our Nuremberg friends" because we
have seen them more there, where they have an apartment, than here is
California, their real home base. In fact they had just gotten
off the plane from Germany and, despite the jet lag, they treated us to
a very pleasant lunch and afternoon of catching up at their new home.
We felt right at home among the construction debris. Nice afternoon.
That
evening, we babysat while Gabby prepared for a bachelorette party and
Mamal had some time with his buddies. It is always fun to have
time alone with the little kids, even if Opa did rough house with them
too much, just before bedtime. That's why they NEEDED a bit of TV
and snack time.
Sunday
morning, Mamal went to exercise, while the rest of us opted for a
breakfast out. The short wait was just enough time to grab yet
another family picture. Cute looking bunch.
The
next big deal is the
50th reunion of my high school, Junipero Serra HS from nearby San
Mateo. The event was held at The Olympic Club, "the oldest sports
club in America". I have managed to ignore my high school chums
for most of those decades -- mostly because of my own wandering
life. Generally, Serra graduates stayed in the SF Bay Area,
mostly still in San Mateo county. Meanwhile, I was moving between
a dozen different states and countries. Hard to keep up with
classmates, but maybe I'll change.
The Olympic Club, our dining room view of one of two golf courses
84 attendees, from a class of about 200.
We even received our "Golden Diplomas", proof of something I guess. Friend Steve seemed impressed.
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On Monday morning, we left
early for our return trip to Fresno and implementation of our plans for
visitors Dale and Peter. But life happens while one is
planning. Monday afternoon, Marianne went out
shopping. The short story is that her heart misbehaved
again and, by the time Dale and Peter were in town, Marianne was in the
Kaiser Hospital Emergency Department. Again. Darn.
On Tuesday, Dale and Peter went off on their own, making the
best of a free day in Fresno. I stayed with Marianne discussing
the
merits of various heart treatments, including a pacemaker. We are
learning a whole lot more about atrial fibrillation and beating hearts
and we are getting comfortable that it is a manageable situation --
with treatment.
Dale and Peter visited the hospital Tuesday afternoon and that evening they took me out for dinner.
Dale
and Peter visited Marianne and we all chatted about normal things, such as
dresses for grand daughters and family pictures. Only the setting
was a bit unusual.
That evening our guests treated me to dinner (and toasts to Marianne)
at "Samba", a new discovery for us. It was good enough to make it
on Marianne's agenda, as soon as we are back to normal.
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On Wednesday our
guests headed off to continue their California visit. Sorry it
was so short and complicated a visit, but we will find a way to get
together again - somewhere.
Meanwhile,
Marianne is off for a pacemaker. We decided in favor of the
ticker at about 9:30 and by 11:30 she was being whisked away to the St.
Agnes Cath Lab for the procedure. After months of consideration,
it was a relief to be taking concrete steps forward. The
procedure started about 3:15 and was done by 4:30. I checked on
her and she was groggy, but doing fine. She was driven back
to Kaiser Hospital by about 6:00.
Back in her Kaiser room, Marianne received her first meal in a day and
polished it off in no time. I watched the World Series while she
phoned to assure Mamo, Babi, and Gabby that all was turning out
well. And so it seemed.
Thursday morning I
headed over to the hospital. Marianne had already texted a
request for a low-fat latte, decaf of course, so I assumed she was doing
just fine. That was the case and she was released at 11:00. Good news!
The not-so-good news
followed. At about 2:00 on Thursday, Marianne developed strong
chest pains. We returned to the Emergency Room for five hours of
testing. That testing demonstrated that she did not have anything
life-threatening and they gave her pain pills and we went home.
The pain did not go away, and we returned to the ER Friday morning,
armed with a web search of the Mayo Clinic that described her symptoms
under "pericardenitis", a inflammation of the heart lining. To
make a long story short, the ER folks repeated the
did-she-have-a-heart-attack tests with the same negative results of the
day before. There was a CAT scan, a pacemaker check, EKGs, a pair
of X-rays, and an
echo cardiogram. This was thorough enough to really answer the
question of serious heart problems - no problems.
This time however, pericardenitis became an acknowledged possibility
and the cardiologist prescribed 800mg ibuprofen. It worked quickly to
reduce the chest pain, confirming the likelihood of a correct
diagnosis. By the time we left the ER, eight hours after arriving, we
were encouraged that Marianne could return to "simply" adjusting to
life with a pacemaker.
It is now Saturday morning
and Marianne is weak, from a week in and out of the hospital, from the
pacemaker insertion surgery, from the chest/heart inflammation, but on
the mend. Gabby is coming up this afternoon to help hold her
hand, fix soup, and celebrate Marianne's 69th birthday.
Thanks for all the good wishes and I will end this diary now, with its not-quite-as-planned story.
John and Marianne
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